Relationships never change. Once you’ve started relating, your character to their character, you are sort of “locked in”. The relationships may end but the fact that you related will always be, since all time is now. Sure you may not be on speaking terms with this one or with that one, but when that happens you continue “relating” on those terms (with anger, remorse, mutual disdain, one broken heart) – that is why it is best to clean up your relationships, even if you are not physically relating to that person any longer; even if that person is dead and gone. This is easily done with acceptance, forgiveness and understanding. It is best to walk around with a clean and clear connectivity to other people and this can happen when all your “old” relationships have been cleared and resolved to the best of your ability. You will know what needs to take place; just be open and feel it: forgiveness there, a prayer for him, an understanding there, apologies and a release of anger there. You can even do some of this work in the form of a letter. Everyone did the best they could in the circumstances of the relationship, even you – if you could have done better than you would have done better. And the past is behind you but the relationship remains until you resolve and release and thank God for the lessons.
